Welcome to this page. Nasia here.
If you find yourself here, then you probably had a relapse. This page was created for you, please read it carefully.
What’s a relapse? “I’m smoking again less or the same as I used to before I quit.”
A relapse comes with a lot of bad feelings: guilt, shame, regret. I want to encourage you to approach your relapse with compassionate curiosity. Instead of putting yourself down or telling yourself you failed (which can only make you feel worse and stay stuck)… try to discover what went wrong.
It may be unpleasant to look at what happened in your relapse, causing you to quickly conclude that nothing went wrong or that you don’t know what happened. I want you to try and find out.
One thing is certain: If you relapsed, something did go wrong. You didn’t relapse because you can’t succeed, or you can’t find it easy. Of course you can! However, right now, there’s an invisible block standing in your way of success, and you need to remove it to feel clear, confident, and motivated to move forward. Unless you remove that block, the past will repeat itself – eventually! – and we don’t want that. This page will help you identify that block so you can get it out of your way and succeed – for good!
As always, we’re here to help you.
We all make mistakes and face setbacks. You’re here now which shows you’re willing to move forward so congratulations! Having a relapse may be a blessing in disguise and a wonderful opportunity to learn something that could help you quit for good.
Your success story is still being written.
What To Do Now
1. Reflect & Learn
First, you need to write down what you could have done differently.
Learning from this setback can ensure you’re protected in the future and even discover things that can improve your wellbeing and quality of life as a non-smoker.
So let’s do your reflection.
Please answer the questions below as honestly as you can.
- What events or triggers led up to this setback? How did I react to this? What did I do? What did I think? What did I feel?
2. How did I try to stop these craving thoughts and feel better?
3. Did I keep cigarettes around after my quit date? (If you did watch this video: https://youtu.be/GY9FyQj5bzQ)
4. Looking back, what could I have done differently?
5. If I knew then what I know now, what would I have told myself when the craving mind told me to smoke that 1st cigarette? And the second one? And the third one?
6. What have I learned from this setback? Was this a high-risk situation? What helped and what didn’t? How did this relapse make me feel?
7. What can I do next time I find myself in a similar situation so that I will remain smoke-free and happy?
2. Set a new quit date
As soon as you’re ready set a new quit date. You will definitely benefit from going through the program again, even if you quit smoking before day 10.
Every day of the program has information that can be a catalyst to your success. If going through the program again seems a lot to tackle, then watch the videos that pique your curiosity, challenge you, or feel relevant to your current situation. Definitely rewatch days 3,4,8,10,11 & 12.
Will it work again?
Rewatching the program can only benefit you. You’ll be surprised by how many things you’ve missed before.
Why do we miss out on important information?
As we listen to a video, a particular idea will catch our interest. When an idea draws us in, we focus on it for a few minutes while the video keeps playing. During the brief time we zone out, we miss what’s being taught. It’s like momentarily muting the video.
The next time you watch the same video, you will not need to focus on the same idea, so you will consciously hear what you missed before.
3. Watch these videos
Can I have just one cigarette?
Watch the Ask An Ex interviews: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLtIqmOH9zfIs3sh-x_vQFL3K0d3zxDP0r
4. Refuel your motivation
Please create some flashcards and write on each card a reason why you don’t want to smoke any more. For example, one card can say “I have a lot to live for” another “I want to win, not the addiction”… Write something on each card in any way that resonates with you. Create as many cards as you want. Look at these cards every morning and also to help you feel even more motivated to succeed.
If there’s something specific troubling you and can’t find the answer, email our team at support@cbqmethod.com and they’ll be happy to help you based on what you need.
